I know I have written a lot of posts over the years about forgiveness. It’s something I think I’ll always write about because I cannot stress how important it truly is in this life to forgive… To forgive one self. To forgive others. To forgive your wrongs, the things you think others have done to wrong you, and so on. Forgiveness doesn’t equate to saying, hey I’m just fine with what you did or said or how you treated me… Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget. There is a huge difference. It simply means you let go of the power it has over you. You let go on the chains, you choose to bind yourself with, buy hanging on. You simply let it go. And in doing so, in letting go, in forgiving, in breaking the chains, you free YOURSELF…
You will screw up in this life. Others will screw up in this life. People will make decisions that you don’t agree with. People will hurt you. You will hurt people. People will let you down. You will let people down. Guess what? It’s called life. Often it isn’t intentional, often it could not be avoided. Other times it most certainly could. Regardless as to the reasons anyone does or says what they do, realize each individual has the right to make those choices for themselves. And YOU have the right to forgive them and be free of the attachment. What you are attached to is something that makes you feel shitty, so why on earth would hang on to it? Keeping yourself attached to anger for another, hurt from another, ill feelings does what for you? Makes you feel ill, makes you feel hurt, and makes you feel angry?
It’s within your power to let it all go, by choosing to simply forgive. Accept people for who they are, including yourself. And if there are people in your life that do not bring positive feelings, do not enhance and enrich your life, ask yourself whether or not those are people you wish to continue to give your power and energy too. Sometimes no matter how much we care about others, if they are hurting us or contributing more negative to our lives then positive, it may be time to really look at what the relationship is and what needs to be done about it. Letting go… Forgiving… These are key things we must all do in our lives…
Life has its challenges. Often times it may seem unfair. Life can be difficult and it most certainly comes with hardships. But life is also, GOOD…As much disappointments and frustrations and even tragedies that come, the blessings and the joys outweigh them all. If you woke up this morning and drew breath, you have been blessed to begin this new day. Even if you have aches, pains and things weighing upon, YOU WOKE UP… Life will come with tough times, it will come with pains, but the happiness, the joys, the love and the blessings it comes with make the tougher stuff a little easier to deal with. When you get in a slump and find yourself focusing on the hards, give yourself a reality check in the simplest of ways….Look at pictures of your life, your Ohana, think about all the incredible memories…remind yourself of all that’s existed in your life, all that is now, and all the amazing still left to come. If you look hard enough and think back, I bet you will find the smiles outweighed the heck out of the frowns or tears… No one said life was gonna be easy, and if it was, would you fully appreciate it, or simply take everything and everyone for granted?
Remember one key thing…In life ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Appreciate, value, and cherish yourself, all others and this precious life you’ve been gifted!!!
At times people take life and others for granted. Getting caught up in the go go go of it all and always looking for something more. In doing such they loose sight of what they already have and all that surrounds them. Don’t get lost in what you once had. Don’t get lost in what you someday would like to have… Appreciate all you have right now with all you are. YOU are meant to live in this day, not the ones that have passed and not the ones that are yet to come. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t set goals and put forth the steps in motion to achieve them all. This doesn’t mean you cannot or should not work toward a better future. This simply means in doing all that, don’t lose this very day at hand. Just as it doesn’t mean you cannot reflect upon your past, as we all know it helped bring you to the exact spot you are in, in this very moment. Take the time to appreciate. Take the time to see. Take the time to do this moment, this day, and appreciate the gift of having it.
When you are at your weakest, your find your greatest strength. When you are weary and tired, you find your energy. When you feel disappointed, encouragement is still within and surrounds you. In the deepest moments of despair, is where hope lies greatest. It’s easy to get caught up in the negatives. It’s just as easy to get enlightened by the incredible positives. Life is and always has been a balance. Sometimes the scales tip a little more one way, than the other. But they always find a way to balance out. Find your balance. The only person who can choose what you see, how you feel, how things effect you….is YOU… These are your choices. If you sit around focusing on all that isn’t, you loose site of all that is, and all that can be.
None of us were created in this life to just sit back and watch life pass us bye. We were meant to make waves. We were meant to rock the boat. We were meant to push harder, swim faster, grow stronger and be more with each day that we are gifted. We were also created to be the person we choose to be. Don’t conform with others, simply to fit in. Don’t measure yourself based on others. Be proud of the person that you are, and say NO to the things and the people that don’t enrich your life.
Look around, no matter where you might be, and take in the beauty. It surrounds us and it lives within us always. You are beautiful. You are unique. You are responsible for each and every choice you make, and any direction that you take in this life. It’s so easy to caught up in the net, caught up in the crap that just doesn’t matter. But we all have the power to cut ourselves and free, and remain free from the traps and the people who don’t bring positive, don’t bring enrichment, don’t bring true benefit to our lives… Start by being someone who brings benefit to the lives of others, and you will attract the same. There’s more than enough of the problem people in the world. What we need more of is the solution people!!! Be all that you were created to be in this vast beautiful world we call home. Wishing you all a day filled with positive change, beautiful reflection and realization, and the truest comprehension of all that is possible when you chose for it to be!!!
Often you don’t even know the strength you are capable of. Often it isn’t until you are forced to fight, to take on a battle, that you realize the warrior that you truly are. Everyone has strength within them. You’re allowed to feel week, to feel overwhelmed, and to get frustrated at times. You’re allowed to feel whatever it is you feel, it’s yours to do… Just know that just like the greatest fighters, it’s when they are lying on the canvas and the 10 count begins, that a beast takes a hold of them and with each number they grow stronger and stronger and stronger, and before they hit the number 10, they are up on two feet, solid, strong and knocking their opponent the hell out… I grew up watching some of the greatest fighters in the world and I remember that happening so often.
Never give up. Never be told what is or what isn’t. Listen to yourself, listen to your body, your mind, your heart, your soul and the very spirit you were created with. And when you fall down, know that it’s ok… Sometimes we have to be knocked down, to realize it’s us who controls the getting back up and what we do with that. And if you need a hand to get up, I bet if you reach out, someone will be there to help you.
Look back at your life and recall the some of difficult things you experienced. The times you didn’t know how you would get through… Remind yourself how you not only survived them, but found ways to thrive in this life regardless or even because of them. Life will test us. Hard times will exist. But we truly never are given more then we can handle. Hardships strengthen us, ground us and they truly remind us of the fragility of life and the unbelievable strengths and possibilities as well.
Like an Oak Tree, storms come and go…branches break and fall….but the roots continue to grow, strengthen and endure all life may bring. We have strength within us to weather the storms that may come. And if you loose a branch or two along the way, you still got your roots to keep you firmly planted…
Hard times are as much a part of life as the happy times. And truth be told it’s the hardships that allow us to greater appreciate the amazing in our life. When enduring hardships you learn who you really are, all you are capable, and what truly matters to you. Often we’re tested. But always know you have what it takes to overcome, endure and triumph. When the going gets tough, the tough kick ass!!! Without problems, there wouldn’t be progress. Difficulties can be painful and frustrating, they also have the power to get us focused and drive us. Problems often strengthen your faith, wisdom and YOU! And give us a greater appreciation for what’s truly important in life. Some of life’s greatest achievements came from the most difficult of times. YOU have the power within YOU to overcome and to thrive. Never doubt it or YOU!
Smile at life, even when you might not think its smiling on you. Share your smile wherever you go. You never know who’s day it may change. Something so simple and free, why not share it? Initiate positivity and you just might find it comes back. Initiate positivity simply because you can. Of course if you prefer to sit around bitchin bout all that isn’t good your life, that’s an option too. We’ve all got a thing or two we could focus on and gripe about and share. But think about it just for a minute and ask yourself something really simple… Which one makes you feel better, accomplishes more, and is worthy of you? When you make a choice to focus on and share negativity or positivity, it does far more than impact your mood, or the mood of others, it impacts your life, and often the lives of others…
Wishing you all a day full of smiles shared, appreciation, and happiness!!! Be contagious!!!
So crazy happy to be home again and for good. OMG the mainland just so wasn’t home. That’s what happens when you grow up in Paradise. Super spoiled. Don’t know how the heck I survived being so dang far from the Ocean. It wasn’t for a long time, thankfully and the road trips rocked. lol :)… It was necessary and served its purpose though. And now things are as they should be… Maui has always been home, even while away, that of course doesn’t change. Family, friends, all that home has and always will be are something I cherish so very much. Aside from the crappy healthcare and limited options in some of those areas, all else friggen rocks when it comes to living where your heart is most grounded. Keeping the amazing team of Docs that I’ve been working with in a few other states, and they’ve been amazing at being open to working with docs here. Geez with as many trips to the mainland we have done for surgeries and medical related crap, you think I’d be used to all the travel chaos that comes with it. This was only the second time I needed medical clearance from a Doctor to show proof of being medically able to travel. Oh lord back to $5 per gallon gas and $10 per gallon milk. lmao. Pay the price to live in Paradise, as they say, haha. Reminding myself that the amazing ocean, beaches, waterfalls, bamboo forest, secret spots of peacefulness, and the truly blessed energy that makes Maui, and the people here so much of what it is, are all 100% FREE!!!
So often people fear change, fear challenges, fear so much in this life. But when you accept that life is change. Life is challenge. Life is about living, you can live without fear of whatever is to come. Life is way to short to be lived halfway. If there are changes that you need to make to be happy, make them. If there are people holding you back, realize that you have the power to release yourself and that the only person who can really hold you back in this life, is yourself. Your life is precious. Your energy is precious. Your heart is precious. Value yourself, value the life that’s been gifted to you. So many people stay stuck on stuck. Stuck in places. Stuck in jobs. Stuck in relationships. None of which bring them true happiness or fulfillment. But they have a list of reasons as to why it’s easier to just stay, then to make a change, make a choice, and put it into action. You are in control of your life. Only YOU. While you may not be able to control the circumstances that arise in life, you most certainly are in control of the choices that you make, the direction you take, and the life that unfolds in doing so.