Make TODAY the DAY

StepPeople often say they want to change. They say they want to focus more on their religion, on their work, on their families, on their goals etc. They say they want to stop living a life they know isn’t for them. Live truer to themselves, their faith, their loved ones. Whatever the reason, whatever the goal, whatever your motivation- there is one very simple ingredient that must come first- a genuine desire to want to do it- one that comes from yourself, because it’s what you want, and not what someone else wants or demands of you. The second most important ingredient is- doing… Taking action, taking the steps, making positive changes that help you to step forward in the direction you desire. The ingredient that should never be allowed in this mix is EXCUSES… and it’s the #1 ingredient that so many people bring to the recipe. There will always be reason why not to something… there should be 10x the reasons –to something… Choices people, all about choices and actions. Be the person YOU want to be. If you aren’t happy with yourself or certain aspects of your life, DO something about it. Every single day that you wake up, you are being blessed with the gift of life, the gift of a do-over, of a second chance. Make today the day…

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Ohana… Love…Unconditional…

FamilyThe truest of loves always remain. People may try to come between others, to throw things at people, to break them up, or to try and block bonds that exist. But the truest of loves always remain. Life will throw hardships and losses your way, just as others will… It’s not about the things that are happening to you, moreover as is it the way you deal with them. Love isn’t tested, love just exists. People test our patience, test our limits, maybe even test our loyalties… Much in life is tested, as people are, but love just exists… Love that is unconditional is like no other love out there. When you truly accept a person for who they are, when you don’t try to change them, when you aren’t blind to the differences, but welcome them, as they balance you both out, that is what it’s all about…

People love others on many levels and in many ways. All love is good love. Some people say there is unhealthy love. I disagree. There are unhealthy choices. There are unhealthy beings. Love is always love though. Jealousy, envy, hatefulness for others having what you may have is not your problem, it’s an unhealthy beings problem. If you have haters our there, it’s likely you have something that others simply wish they had, or someone they wish they had. Don’t allow it to take from what you have, or you are giving others power over your life, over your love, and over all that is still to come. Accept people for who they are. See others for who they are. Remind yourself how truly blessed you really are, and live and love with every ounce that you are…

Unconditional love is meant to be shared, cherished and respected for the true gift that it is. Any of you that have children, you fully understand this amazing form of love. If you have a spouse, a partner in this life, someone who brings a smile to your face even when you want to be upset, someone who makes you laugh even when you are about to scream, then you understand this form of love. Apply it to others in your life. Know that loving someone unconditionally doesn’t mean you agree with them on things they choose to do or say, or how they live their lives. It means you accept their very right to do so. Loving someone unconditionally means to accept them- not on your terms- but allowing them to live on their own terms. You don’t have to live on their terms, you live on yours, and they equally need to accept you and that as such. Unconditional means exactly that- without conditions…
And lastly my post today is about family, is about friends, and is about what Ohana truly is to me. Ohana is made up of the people you fight for, that would fight back for you. Ohana is made up of people you respect and accept for who they are, just as they do you. Ohana is not always made up of blood, it’s made up of the people you surround yourself with because you choose too, not because you have too. Ohana is the people who live in your heart, and you live in their hearts… Ohana is made up of the people you call in a time of need, a happy moment shared, a pregnancy just learned, a new job, a new house, anything that brings you the type of joy you’d like to share, or a hardship where you need support, love and acceptance. Life is not always easy, family is not always easy, Ohana, like unconditional love is as easier than breathing… You don’t have to remind yourself to do it, it simply exists… With every crisis that is faced together, every happiness that is shared, the circle grows stronger. I don’t think it’s just a coincidence that the first letter in Ohana has no beginning and no end…Just as family ends in the letters ILY- I love you…
Love the people you love. Accept each and every person for who they are, even if they aren’t who you’d prefer them to be… Look around and see all that you have, because of the people that surround you, not the things. Our most cherished things in this life, should never be things, they should be beings… Your Ohana (which of course includes your furry friends-well ours does- lol), is who should be the most cherished… Things no matter how great they may seem are merely things. Life isn’t about filling your house with all the things you can, it’s about filling your house with everything that makes it a HOME… Things don’t make it a HOME, people do… love does…

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